“My first momma couldn’t care for me? Why?”
“Will I see my China momma in heaven?”
“Do you think I have a brother or sister in China?”
“Can I write her a letter?”
“I guess it is kinda cool to know I have three mommies.”
“Will I ever meet her?”
“Did I use a pacifier?”
“What was my first word?”
“Was I a cute baby?”
“Do you think she misses me?”
“Is it because of my cleft palate?”
“Why couldn’t I grow in your tummy?”
*Deep breath.*
These are all questions that Shea and Avery have asked me over the past several years. At first, the questions literally took my breath away.
Especially the first one.
I was so unprepared.
Shea was only three and a half when she asked me why her first momma couldn’t care for her.
It was utterly heartbreaking…
We were reading Shaoey And Dot: Bug Meets Bundle
Chris – this post was just fabulous, and a WONDERFULLY grounding set of thoughts for me — I think often and am asked often by my 3 1/2 year old questions about his looks and how he is different from us… and he tries to crawl onto my tummy regularly and says “i wish I grew in your tummy”… teaching him more directly that he DOES have a parent who has known him through his entire life is a fantastic consideration… thank you so much for sharing this… Sincere cheers – Amy