You Were Adopted

Many from the last generation seems to recall the “big reveal” in their lives; the moment they were told they had been adopted. Since then we’ve learned that it benefits a child to grow up always knowing this part of their story so they can’t remember the “conversation”…they just always knew. Those of us with conspicuous adoptions (maybe transracial so everyone knows you are an adoptive family) don’t have much choice in this matter anyway!

That’s what I want for my kids, though. When they’re older and someone asks, “When did you find out you were adopted?”, they’ll say, “I don’t know.” There are several ways we let them know this part of their story even now.

Books. There are some great books you can find, written for children about the topic of adoption. Two of my favorites for babies/toddlers are:

A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza.This is the story of a little bird who wants to find a mother so he searches and searches for a mommy who looks just like him. When he can’t find one, he comes across Mrs. Bear who does all the things a mother would do and so becomes his mommy. A great book for transracial adoptive families and all adoptive families.

I Love You Like Crazy Cakes

4 thoughts on “You Were Adopted

  1. Jody M

    Wonderful Post! As an adoptee who has been a support group facilitator with adoptees and the adoption triad for 16 years, I echo your suggestions! I was fortunate to have parents who always weaved the word Adoption into conversations in a postive way. I’ve met many adoptees who “never knew” and abruptly found out as a teenager or adult. The emotional toll on the adopted person is huge and their feelings of being betrayed impacts their ability to trust their parents and others ongoing. When an unwelcome “surprise” revelation comes too late for an adoptee, this question often arises in them “what other information was withheld from me?”and “what else does everybody know but me?” Keep sharing!

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  2. Nicole

    Loved this one. Very interesting and great point in that last paragraph … I don’t know how many times I have said that my daughter IS adopted. My husband and I both will be changing that – thanks for bringing it to our attention :-) God Bless!

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  3. Lori

    Love your post!! All so very true. So very blessed E was adopted and can’t wait to be able to say J-Man was adopted.

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