The Bible has a lot to say about wisdom. A keyword search for “wisdom” produces 219 results. I’m a planner, and also a bit of a perfectionist, so the admonition in Luke 14:28-30 about estimating the cost BEFORE building has always struck a warning chord in me.
But, as Trent and I delve deeper into this adoption journey, I’m also confronted with the question: Where does wisdom end and faith versus fear begin? Because from a pragmatic viewpoint, international adoption doesn’t seem especially wise.
Sam is 13, a great kid, and, to be honest, parenting an only child has a lot of perks. Adding another child through international adoption will create some stress:
- Financially — adoption fees plus the cost of raising and schooling another child
- emotionally — attachment issues and parenting in general can wreak havok in families
- physically — twenty plus hours of travel time just to GET to Lesotho, plus the threat of illness and injury along the way
It’s no wonder well-meaning friends have asked, “Um, are you sure?”
So where’s the line between wisdom and faith versus fear? We confront this same question about our mission trip to Tijuana. This year, we promoted the mission trip to the Christian school where I work. Not a lot of takers, to be honest. What I got instead where a lot of rebukes. “Haven’t you heard that Mexico is NOT SAFE?” “It is irresponsible of you to promote a service trip to MEXICO! Are you foolish?” No matter that we’ve been to Tijuana five years running, are in regular contact with those who live every day in Tijuana, and our critics’ only knowledge of Mexico is what they’ve heard on the news (which happens to be focused on another part of the country completely).
Sometimes, we must step forward with action that seems to defy wisdom. Adoption. Mission trips. Service. Charitable giving. Heck, even venturing out in a thunderstorm to go to church. When wisdom ends, our only decision is whether we will venture forth in faith…or stay home in fear.
For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.
1 Cor. 1:25
I love this perspective! Thanks for sharing what God has laid on your heart! Faith definitely doesn’t mean always doing what makes sense…
God’s plans are certainly not my plans! And this adoption journey has certainly been more difficult that I would have planned it. But it does bring comfort to know that God is in control, no matter how crazy life gets!
Great post! My husband and I were just talking about the similarities in adoption and missions last night! 🙂
Ha, yes, how “smart” is it to give a 13-year-old a can of tar and put her on a roof in Mexico! But this is where she “gets” Jesus.
Now THAT is a wise way to live!