That is the question I ask myself almost daily.
When we accepted Kalia
Am I Doing Everything I Can?
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That is the question I ask myself almost daily.
When we accepted Kalia
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I have a child with significant delays as well–my bio son. I have to remind myself often that there is nothing “wrong” with him and that God created him in His own image and chose us to parent him. As hard as it is, I know that He will walk with us and give us what we need to parent him. Somedays though, it’s really hard to remember this! Thanks for your honesty here and for letting people like me know we’re not alone!
I am in your same shoes. Our son is about to be 4 but is more like a 2 year old as far as speech and socially/emotionally. And it’s SO HARD to figure out when to baby them, when to push them to work a little harder or to begin to expect more from them. He goes to a developmental preschool for therapies and he is a different child at school. He regresses so much more at home which I suppose tells me that a lot of it is adoption issues and not just global delays. It is very confusing. Hang in there.
Brandi,
I can totally relate to finding it hard to understand the Lord’s will when circumstances get hard. I’ve questioned my understanding of His will many times. But a few weeks ago I think I finally got it: Matthew 7:13-14 says:
“Enter through the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the road is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who go through it. How narrow is the gate and difficult the road that leads to life, and few find it.”
Following His will is almost GUARANTEED to be hard. I’m not sure why we believe the lie that following the Lord is always supposed to be easy, but it’s just not true. Jesus’ road – the road that leads to life – is narrow and difficult.
All that to say – rest assured that when the road gets hard, you are exactly where you need to be. Press into Jesus and He will give you the strength, wisdom and peace you need to walk the narrow road.
Wow..this post is such an encouragement to me! We brought our son home from China almost a year ago. He is 4, and I have been at a loss as well as to when to baby and when to be more firm. I just don’t even know how to describe him, or the way he is with learning/struggling to learn. It’s so very frustrating.
I do know God called us to be his parents, and that where He guides, He also provides. He loves our son more than we ever could, and has a plan and purpose…in that we trust. Also, in that, we lean on Him for wisdom in schooling, discipline, developmental milestones, and just parenting our son in general.
I hear you. It’s hard to always know the right thing to do. We adopted 3 year old twin boys in July 2009. They are almost 5 now, but speech/emotionally they are about 2. I think the hardest part is when people just have no clue what your helping them overcome. I’ve really had to let go of what others expect of me and do what I think is right for my boys. It’s been a hard lesson for me…. the people pleaser… My hubby is in ministry full time, and I had to drop off the map when it comes to ministry for this season with the boys. It took well over a year for us even to be able to go to church on a semi regular basis. It was so hard for me to stop worrying about what people thought about me being MIA, or why I could not be around… My boys are doing SO much better. Finally we are back to church, etc. We are seeing big changes, but there is still a long ways to go. Right now, it’s all about them, and getting them to a place of healing. I’m learning. It’s hard.
Thanks for having the courage to share with such transparency and honesty…sure to be a blessing to many other parents walking a similar road!
Thanks so much everybody!
It helps to know there are others in the same boat, and to hear that I AM doing the best I can.
My daughter is AMAZING, and she will do everything GOD has planned for her…even if his plans & mine differ 🙂
I forgot to put it in my bio, but you’re welcome to visit my blog & watch how Kalia is learning & growing…and how we are learning & growing right along with her. http://www.silverscoop.blogspot.com
Thanks again!
Oh…and Rebecca…I LOVE that verse and how you explained it. Thank you!